My name is Stanley and I am the editor of DaddyAvenue.com. I grew up in the heart of Chinatown in Vancouver, B.C Canada. I am a Chinese born Canadian who grew up as the middle child in a family of three siblings. I have an elder sister named Olivia and a sibling named Victor. Growing up in a very traditional Asian household my father would punish me by making me kneel on the floor and hold my ears if I disobeyed the household rules. There would seldom be a feather bamboo stick involved, but I won’t get into details. In hindsight, I was thankful for my father`s strict rules as I turned out to be who I am now. I was never handed anything by my father as a child. I had to earn everything myself. It was like my father wanted me to learn how to survive independently as Darwinism would state `Survival of the Fittest`. I am thankful for my parents on providing a roof over my head and food on my plate during my adolescent years. Their guidance have led me to graduating high school with honour roll standing, and completion of my Bachelor of Arts Degree in Psychology at University of British Columbia.
My family went through a dark time during my post-secondary years as my parents were going through a divorce. I never understood how a relationship of over 23 years would abruptly come such a conclusion until a decade later. The sacrifices that my parents went through together to try to make things work as long as possible because of their love for us is truly appreciated. Our once nuclear family parted ways as our parents divorce became inevitable. My sister went abroad to Japan to chase her dream as an educator, while my younger sibling was becoming mischievous and I was figuring out how to produce income to pay off my student loan.
I worked several jobs from a summer Daycamp leader at local community centres to getting burnt fingers from “Those Little Donuts” at the PNE Fair, landing a job at the eBay Fraud Department to working part-time at Telus Communications. In between all these jobs was always my passion for event planning. I started organizing events back in secondary school as the Student Council President and it evolved into organizing dance functions post graduation. I found enjoyment in attending all-night dance events, “raves” and dancing (drug-free) throughout the night with my friends. I met a lot of new acquaintances and friends through these events. I decided to organize my own events with a group of friends under the company name Uh-Oh! Productions, which partnered up with Shy Brothers which then evolved into Solid Events, which is currently one of Western Canada’s largest event companies.
I met my partner Monica through a business event and did not start dating her until later on well into our friendship. We started off just seeing each other and hanging out. Our relationship was a complicated one in which we argued a lot and had many differences. At one point, we even attended couple’s therapy and the most important thing that we learned was to appreciate each other. We had trust and communication issues from the very beginning. However, we continued to work on improving our relationship as we saw more positive than negative aspects. Communication improved as we started to learn how to communicate with each other more effectively. I told her not to assume that I could read her mind. It is a pretty common assumption that our female counter parts think that we can mind read. I think it's due to those fantasy novels or shows brainwashing them.
We came into the discussion of having a child after dating 3 years. We both agreed that we wanted to have children together although, we were not ready to get married (because of our busy lives and the amount of work it requires to planning a wedding). Strangely, it is a pretty common trend nowadays for couples here in Vancouver due to our high standard of living. Here I am now. Monica is 34 weeks pregnant and I am only weeks away from becoming a father while I am launching this website for new dads. I still feel a bit clueless as to what to expect when my son is born. However, I will share with you my experience as I go through it.
I hope to create an avenue where all fathers can share their experiences, stories, and knowledge with each other.
– Daddy Avenue –
My family went through a dark time during my post-secondary years as my parents were going through a divorce. I never understood how a relationship of over 23 years would abruptly come such a conclusion until a decade later. The sacrifices that my parents went through together to try to make things work as long as possible because of their love for us is truly appreciated. Our once nuclear family parted ways as our parents divorce became inevitable. My sister went abroad to Japan to chase her dream as an educator, while my younger sibling was becoming mischievous and I was figuring out how to produce income to pay off my student loan.
I worked several jobs from a summer Daycamp leader at local community centres to getting burnt fingers from “Those Little Donuts” at the PNE Fair, landing a job at the eBay Fraud Department to working part-time at Telus Communications. In between all these jobs was always my passion for event planning. I started organizing events back in secondary school as the Student Council President and it evolved into organizing dance functions post graduation. I found enjoyment in attending all-night dance events, “raves” and dancing (drug-free) throughout the night with my friends. I met a lot of new acquaintances and friends through these events. I decided to organize my own events with a group of friends under the company name Uh-Oh! Productions, which partnered up with Shy Brothers which then evolved into Solid Events, which is currently one of Western Canada’s largest event companies.
I met my partner Monica through a business event and did not start dating her until later on well into our friendship. We started off just seeing each other and hanging out. Our relationship was a complicated one in which we argued a lot and had many differences. At one point, we even attended couple’s therapy and the most important thing that we learned was to appreciate each other. We had trust and communication issues from the very beginning. However, we continued to work on improving our relationship as we saw more positive than negative aspects. Communication improved as we started to learn how to communicate with each other more effectively. I told her not to assume that I could read her mind. It is a pretty common assumption that our female counter parts think that we can mind read. I think it's due to those fantasy novels or shows brainwashing them.
We came into the discussion of having a child after dating 3 years. We both agreed that we wanted to have children together although, we were not ready to get married (because of our busy lives and the amount of work it requires to planning a wedding). Strangely, it is a pretty common trend nowadays for couples here in Vancouver due to our high standard of living. Here I am now. Monica is 34 weeks pregnant and I am only weeks away from becoming a father while I am launching this website for new dads. I still feel a bit clueless as to what to expect when my son is born. However, I will share with you my experience as I go through it.
I hope to create an avenue where all fathers can share their experiences, stories, and knowledge with each other.
– Daddy Avenue –
